The Sweet Stuff Ministry

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Thank you, Lord for the things you have taken away.

Psalm 100:4    Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name.

Several years ago in a women's Bible study group, one of the ladies present prayed this in her prayer, "Thank you, Lord for all the things you have given us and thank you for all the things you have taken away".  I hold dearly to that last part of that sentence.

Each and everyday, may we be mindful and forever grateful of all the things God has given us.  He offers us salvation for an eternal life.  He provides for us with a roof over our heads, food on the table and clothing to wear.  He blesses us with children to fill our quiver.  He blesses us with opportunities throughout life.  He gives peace, health and happiness.

But, what about the things he takes away?  We must be grateful for the things he takes from us.  For in these instances, he reveals his sovereignty.  First and foremost, he takes away our sins.  Much gratitude should be expressed for this on a daily basis!

He takes away pain when our hearts are most broken.

He takes away fear and replaces it with promise.  

He takes away opposition when we work to accomplish his purpose.

He takes away the storms, just in time to allow the sun to shine through.

He takes away sorrow and restores our joy.

He may take away earthly things.  It is likely we did not need them anyway.  He uses these instances to teach us reliance on him.

As we look at the things that he takes away, we can recognize much gain.  So, the next time you pray with thanksgiving for all the things that God has given you, also remember to acknowledge all the things he has taken away. 

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Contentment in God's plans

Proverbs 19:21           Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the Lord's purpose that prevails.

When I grow up, I want to be a doctor.  That has been my plan since I was a child.  My plan has not come to fruition.  I say this, not to out of bitterness or disappointment but to share with you how God's plans are triumphant in accomplishing his will within our lives.  I am sharing this story with you so that you may see that even when things do not turn out as we think they should, God is guiding us toward his goals and purpose.  I have also realized that we can learn many lessons about ourselves in recognizing God's guidance in our lives. 

When I was a high school senior, my plan was to join the U.S. Navy in order to complete medical school.  The recruiter brought the paperwork to my house for me to sign.  To this day, I cannot tell you why I did not sign the papers.  After all, this had been my life long dream.  I tease my husband by telling him that I didn't sign the papers because had batted his big brown eyes at me a couple of weeks prior.

The gears changed quickly over the next few months as my high school graduation approached.  I did complete a degree in the medical field, Radiologic Technology, and have thoroughly enjoyed my career and serving patients.  Upon the completion of that degree, God laid the path for me to complete a higher degree in the field of education by providing a job that paid the tuition for that particular degree.  Now, bear in mind that I had never (NEVER) considered a job that involved teaching.  NEVER!  For several years, I taught Radiography at a local Community and Technical College.  Loved every minute of it!!  Then God called me home.  Not in the eternal sense, but in the literal sense of being home full time with my children.  Then, seemingly out of nowhere, God called me to home school our children.  This year marks our 15th year of home schooling our three children. Wow!

Can you see how God's plans prevailed in my life, even when I could not see myself in the roles that he had planned for me?  As I look back, I can see how he groomed me for what he needed me to do.   I am content with his purpose for me even though I often joke about still becoming a doctor someday.  I am so very thankful for the role in which he appointed me.  I also realized these things about myself over the years:
                      1.  If I had become a doctor, I would have missed so many milestones, laughs and great memories with my children because as much as I love the field of medicine, I would have been completely engulfed in my career.
                      2.  God has life completely mapped out for us and as long as we are willing to yield to his purpose, we will find great contentment every day, whether at home or at work.
                      3.  God knows us better than we can begin to know ourselves.

If you feel disappointment or confusion because your plans have not seemed to play out as you had expected, yield to God's molding and shaping in your life.  Seek that inner craving to truly fulfill his purpose for you.  When God is changing your life, perhaps you should make some changes in your perspective.  Contentment is available and yours for the taking!  Enjoy your appointed purpose and find that contentment that God has for you. 

Monday, November 23, 2015

There is peace in the valley

Psalms 23:1-4  The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.  He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul.  He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake.  Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and staff, they comfort me.

Psalms 23 is such a well known Bible passage.  We typically think of it as a scripture to read when someone has passed away.  It is common to see the first four verses of Psalms 23 printed on funeral programs and read aloud during a funeral service.

Psalms 23 is as much about everyday life as it is about death.  Let us focus on verse 2, "He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul".  This verse can bring to mind many pleasantries.  If you have ever walked beside a river or stream in early spring,  you can recall the freshness that is in the air.  One of my favorite places to be growing up was at the river.  At the river bottom in early spring, I could never resist the urge to take my shoes off and feel the lush, new green grass between my toes.  The flowing water, chirping birds, warm spring sunshine and crisp air always offered a sense of renewal.  The body's energy levels rise in the spring and being in the green pastures beside those still waters of the river was a place in which I felt that I could stay forever.

In the green pastures that God provides for us, we can find peace.  By the quiet streams of life, we can exhale and find comfort from God our shepherd.  It is in those time frames of living that we can gather a renewed strength and rest in the salvation of our souls.  Each and every day in this fallen world, the shadows of death are all around us.  In our lost and dying surroundings, there is darkness and despair.  We walk through these shadows daily.  God's rod and staff offer us protection and guidance in order to survive the world in which we live.  He shows us the way into eternity where all valleys will be lush and peaceful forever more. 

Friday, November 20, 2015

Job 42:12

Job 42:12    The Lord blessed the latter part of Job's life more than the first.

I recently studied the book of Job seeking to understand his strength and perseverance.  When we think we have it rough, a good look at Job's life will put ours into perspective. 

Job's experiences opened his eyes to the indescribable holiness of God.  God used Job's sufferings to refine his character.   To make him a better person.  We often hear that when we suffer trials and temptations that we should seek to find what God is teaching us.  Job is a great example of this.  

In all the sufferings and losses that Job experienced, he was still able to worship God and acknowledge his sovereignty.  Many times Job was tormented by others and encouraged to turn away from God.  He was humiliated, rejected, knocked down and beaten while he was down. 

The central theme of Job is that through God's grace, we shall trust and serve him merely because of his sovereignty and not in return for earthly benefits.  God's sovereignty means that he is not required to give a reason for all that he does, however, we are required to trust in all that he does.  

Trusting in God's grace and sovereignty in the midst of suffering is not always easy.  We can see the benefits however in the last chapters of Job where his life was fulfilled and blessed way beyond all that Job had lost.  If you feel that you have lost many things in your life, hold fast to God's promises.  He intends to bless you when you trust and accept his sovereignty.             

Thursday, November 19, 2015

Christian chameleons

Psalms 27:1-4  The Lord is my light and my salvation-whom shall I fear?  The Lord is the stronghold of my life-of whom shall I be afraid?  When evil men advance against me to devour my flesh, when my enemies and my foes attack me, they will stumble and fall.

Chameleons are interesting creatures.  They are a class of lizards that are able to change the color of their skin in order to blend in with the environment around them.  Chameleons are able to vary their skin color in 11 different hues and some can even alter the pattern of their skin to include spots and stripes.  The variance in skin colors is dependent upon the chameleons state of relaxation or excitement, affected by sensations of safety or danger.  The chameleon determines the need for changing colors by a situation called social signaling.  In other words, a chameleon may change colors depending upon the perceived intentions of other chameleons.  What they think their peers are planning to do to them can change their skin color and its patterns.

How many times are Christians much like chameleons?  How often have we seen Christians in our environment, or as leaders in our communities and country, change their colors and/or add spots in order to blend in with the environment around them?  Can you think of a time when a Christian allowed fear of peers or colleagues to prevent standing for God's word?  Has there been a time when you witnessed a Christian being a different person according to the crowd in which he/she is around?  Do Christians hold onto God's promises for protection of their businesses and families or are they afraid when the enemy lashes out and threatens to destroy?

Self-preservation is a dangerous mind set.  The Lord promises through salvation that we need not fear the attacks of the enemy.  He expects integrity.  He wants us to be in the same skin no matter where we are or who we are with.  He does not want us to camouflage our Christianity.

There may be times when you feel inhibited to display your Christianity.  There may be times when the world expects you to be divided in your actions and behaviors.  Stand strong with integrity.  Be the same in every environment, even when the enemy is up close and in your face.  God will protect you and bless you for your integrity.

Standing up for God's word is not always easy.  But, it IS always worth it!

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

God's yardstick

2 Corinthians 10:12  We do not dare to compare ourselves with some who commend themselves.  When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.

This verse contains a lot of "selves" and comparing.  Have you ever compared yourselves to others?  We all have.  I find myself needing to reel "self" in fairly often and stop trying to measure up to others.  It is a difficult battle in the mind to compare ourselves to others and use their accomplishments and blessings as yardsticks for our own lives. 

Facebook and other social media is a breeding ground for comparisons.  Social media captures fleeting moments of happiness and accomplishments.   Status updates and photo posts do NOT represent what life is like all the time, yet we are tempted to believe that many have "perfect" lives and it leaves us feeling like we are holding the short end of the stick.   At times when I read posts that contain a list of things that one of my friends has completed since she started her day, (and it is now only 9 a.m.), I am left thinking that I am a lousy housekeeper.  When others have washed 12 loads of laundry, cleaned the entire house, and cooked two meals all in one morning, my thoughts turn to, "either she has several washers and dryers or I am not doing this right."

Comparing ourselves to others is not a new issue with people, however, I do think that it has escalated with so much social media available today.   When the activities of others is ever before us, comparison is an easy temptation.  We must stay focused on our own journey and not spend time trying to measure up to what others are doing. 

I tell you, and please hear this loudly and clearly:  God does not use the same yardstick that is used by people.  Don't worry about other people's accomplishments, job titles, material possessions, or their comings and goings.   Focus instead on what God expects you to accomplish.  Measure and compare your life with the life of Jesus Christ and strive to accomplish things that would please Him.   Perhaps God asked you to visit someone at the hospital one morning and your laundry remained piled up.  Maybe your babies needing holding an extra hour after breakfast or it is your day off and you feel a calling to spend it with a friend you haven't seen in while.   These are the things God measures.  How you submit to his callings and expectations are the markers on his yardstick.

Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Let us pray for the broken hearted

Job  30:15    Terrors overwhelm me; my dignity is driven away as by the wind, my safety vanishes like a cloud.

Job was a man that suffered immense tragedies in his life.   Along with his extreme loss of his family,  possessions, health and his position, he was also mocked by the younger people.   They even mocked the way he suffered.  Talk about a lack of compassion. 

Verse 15 conveys such deep emotion and raw honesty.  Job cries out about his fear and anxiety.  He was insecure and worried.  He even felt like he had lost his honor, that his name was no longer respected. 

Job's situation typically brings to mind a man of great patience, endurance and steadfast faith in God.  I am certain that he felt broken in ways that seemed unbearable at times.  I would like to focus on his broken heart.  Think of a time in your life when you have suffered.  Maybe it was the loss of a marriage, job/finances, family member or close friend, friendship, health, pet, or home.  Maybe you have suffered broken dreams.  Whatever the loss, think of how your heart felt; the fear that terrorized your mind, the worries and anxieties that kept you awake at night.  Can you recall the despair that left your heart feeling empty and beyond repair?  Now, multiply that times 10 and perhaps that will come close to how Job suffered. 

With the thought of the brokenness, I also want to focus on compassion (on our part).  When we hear of the suffering of others, do our hearts break or do we acknowledge that the situation is bad yet move on with our busy lives?   When we listen to someone describe their brokenness and suffering do we merely hear the words or do we hear the emotion, fear and distress?  Let us make it our personal prayer to be more compassionate for situations no matter what the source of the suffering.   May our hearts feel the brokenness along with our our friends and family members.  I pray that we will have a burden for the brokenness of others and that we will not forget what it is like to hurt and worry.  Hurt and brokenness are in the eye of the beholder and we should not discount any one's suffering.   I encourage you to today to make it your prayer that God will pierce your heart with a deeper level of compassion that each and every one of us could be concerned with the hurts of others.  We cannot always fix the brokenness of others but God can!  When we pray in earnest for others, God will hear our intercessions.                                              

Monday, November 16, 2015

God is always with you!

Psalms 139:8-10  If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.  If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.

God is sovereign.  He is ever present, all knowing, all powerful and ever loving.

He loves us when we are in the depths of destruction and despair.   He cares for us when we feel as if we are under the deepest part of the ocean without an oxygen tank.  He is aware of all the evil schemes that are plotted against us.  He knows when things look and feel hopeless to us and when we feel helpless.

God always, ALWAYS, has a way to protect us and provide for us.  ALWAYS. Period.  Those provisions may not look exactly like what we expect, however, he can and will provide.  Through our perception of things in life, we often will have tunnel vision.  God does not have tunnel vision, he has panoramic vision with x-ray sensors that can see around and through every situation that we may ever find ourselves in.  He can see backwards, forwards, high and low, deep and wide.

If you feel that God is overlooking you and your situation, remember he is there with you wherever you are and whatever you are going through.  He will provide and protect.  Keep loving him and building a deep relationship with him.  You will be amazed of all his capabilities. 

Friday, November 13, 2015

Are you spent?

Luke 15: 11-16  (I encourage you to read 11-32 for the full parable)   Jesus continued:  "There was a man who had two sons.  The younger one said to his father, 'Father, give me my share of the estate.'  So he divided his property between them.  "Not long after that, the younger son got together all he had, set off for a distant country and there squandered his wealth in wild living.  After he had spent everything, there was a severe famine in that whole country, and he began to be in need.  So he went and hired himself out to his fields to feed pigs.  He longed to fill his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating, but no one gave him anything."

This parable is packed with action and consequences.  Self-gratification and rebellion ring loudly in these verses.  The son wanted his share of the father's wealth now so that he could spend it on "wild living".   Wild living in that time period was likely a bit different than wild living today but the principle was the same.  The son was focused on himself and his own fleshly pleasures. He lived as he pleased and spent his money frivolously without regard to the future and the fact that he might need money once all that he had was spent.  The money that he was spending gave him instant gratification, however in another instant, it was all gone.  The consequences of his actions caused him to hit rock bottom financially and emotionally. 

As I look around our world today, many people are wandering about living as they please, spending aimlessly-seeking instant gratification.    Many do so to avoid commitments or responsibility.    Others do so trying to fulfill a void that no form of spending or material things will ever fill.  No amount of vacations, new clothing, vehicles, or jewelry will ever complete any person.  Only Jesus Christ can fill that void. 

Does this devotion find you spent?  Have you chased other things in life looking for contentment and  fulfillment?   Are you spiraling to the bottom emotionally and/or financially?  It is time to end the grief and stress.  Look to God.  Seek him and submit to him with all your heart.  Turn it all around before great sorrow or tragedy occurs.  He can change your heart!

Thursday, November 12, 2015

Mission work is "heart to heart"

Galations 6:2  Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

Life should be a journey filled with teamwork, encouragement, support and a passion for the people around us.  Unfortunately, for some people, life becomes a competition filled with self-promotion, and a disregard for others.  In that disregard for others, there is an unmindfulness for Christ.  In the climb to increase "self", Christ is decreased.  During the trek to the mountain top, it becomes easy to forget those that are in the valleys of life.  If we become inattentive to the burdens of others, we have forgotten that at some time in our lives, we had burdens as well. 

When friends and church family members are experiencing the valleys of life and feel great burdens, one of the greatest pieces of yourself that can be offered is your heart.  One of the basic human needs that we all have is the need for belonging.  We want to know that we are not the only one in the world that is experiencing a hard time, an illness or discouragement.  We may not always be able to fix every situation in the lives of those around us.  However, we can do many things to fix broken pieces of their hearts.  Short conversations, cards of encouragement, phone calls, or a hug and a smile can offer encouragement and love to someone is experiencing a heavy burden. 

I encourage you to seek out someone with a burden.  SEEK OUT, don't wait for it to fall into your lap.  Go find it.  Pray for God to send you a situation in which you may share your heart to make a difference.  Mission work can be right under your nose on the pew in front of you.  Mission work does not have to be in a foreign country nor does it require spending thousands of dollars.  At the end of the day, mission work is about the "heart to heart" transfer of Christ's love, joy and the hope that he offers.  Touch a heart in your church.  It is amazing to witness the power of God and there is much of his power available in near proximity to all of us!

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Veterans-a sacrificial love

John 15:13  Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his live for his friends.

Jesus Christ represents the perfect example of sacrificial love.  He lay down his life for us, his friends.  He never met the majority of the people for which he sacrificed his life.  His act of love was over 2000 years ago, yet the benefits of the crucifixion are available for all of us today.  We have the opportunity to accept him as our savior and reserve our place in heaven for eternity.  The freedoms that accompany salvation provide us with peace, joy, purpose and contentment.

Tomorrow is Veteran's Day.  As I think of all the men and women who have served in all the branches of our military, I think of sacrificial love.  Throughout America's history as a nation, conscription (better known as the "the draft") has been employed on three occasions.  Otherwise, all active military duty, both in peace time and in conflict (war) has been completely voluntary.  Let us ponder the word VOLUNTARY.  This means that somewhere around the age of 16-24, on average, men and women in our country make a conscious decision to willingly join a military service branch.  WILLINGLY!  The loyalty that these young people feel toward our nation is astounding.  Each of them will enter the military with full knowledge that they may lay down their lives in the midst of their service.  They do this for you and for me.  They join for friends whom they have never met and likely never will.  The offer sacrificial love so that we may enjoy a life of freedoms in America.

I love it when I see a military veteran with his/her baseball cap on that identifies the branch of service represented.  I enjoy meeting veterans and I make an effort to approach each one and thank them for service to our country.  In all the times that I have spoken with a veteran of the U.S. military, one thing that I have noticed is that I have never heard a complaint nor a regret for the the service that he/she offered our country.  That is truly a sacrificial heart!

I encourage you to seek out veterans and thank them for their service.  It doesn't have to be today, after all they did not only serve us one day per year so let us remember them all the days of the year!

Monday, November 9, 2015

Isaiah 41:10

Isaiah  41:10  So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. 

For those days when you simply want to pull the covers over your head, stay in bed and hide from the world, remember this:
                              God has a plan and a purpose for you each day.
                              He can bless you in the midst of a mess.
                              He will guide you through any rough patches in your life.
                              He does not want you to feel lonely or discouraged.
                              Even when your ideas and plans fail, he will work it all out for the good.

So, my friends, get up out of the bed of discouragement, dust off your britches and know that God is in complete control of whatever hurdles you feel are in your path.  Pay no mind to the enemy's schemes that attempt to steal your joy.  Do not give Satan any foothold in thwarting your work for God. 

Friday, November 6, 2015

We need a spiritual uprising!

Hosea 4:1-2  Hear the word of the Lord, you Israelites, because the Lord has a charge to bring against you who live in the land; "There is no faithfulness, no love, no acknowledgment of God in the land.  There is only cursing, lying and murder, stealing and adultery; they break all bounds and bloodshed follows bloodshed.

The Israelites had periods of lawless behavior.  Their religious leaders were not leading them toward God.  They were extremely disobedient of the laws that God had given them.  There was spiritual and moral decline within the nation.  In this passage, the Israelites were quick to condemn Hosea's wife for adultery, all the while overlooking their own unfaithfulness to God.  

There was much bloodshed within the kings and rulers at this time.  There was no respect for authority.  Self-promotion and self-preservation was the main motive.   Murder was taken casually and there was no regard for the value of life.  They were quick to blame others for their sinfulness.  Repentance was absent.

This description is regarding events from nearly 3000 years ago.  Sounds like the description could have been taken from our news headlines today.  Bloodshed, lack of respect for authority, no regard for the value of life, lack of accountability, moral decline and self-preservation are tones found in countless news stories all over our world today.  Cold blooded murder stories can be found daily in the news.  Repeated acts of criminal behavior and disregard for God's laws abound in our society today.  Political ads and speeches reveal attitudes of self-promotion.

We need a spiritual awakening to sweep the hearts and minds of our world!  Please join me in prayer for a filling of God's love in the hearts of all people.  Let us pray without abandon for the lost that they may fall in love with God and the goodness that he can bring.  May we never turn our backs on the evil acts in our world, that we might offer boldness in standing for Christ against the evil.  Let us pray with all our hearts for the leaders of our nation.  May we seek each day ways in which we can contribute to a spiritual rise in our communities, our country and our world.  AMEN.

Thursday, November 5, 2015

Service is our duty

Luke 17:10    "So you also, when you have done everything you were told to do, should say, We are unworthy servants;  we have only done our duty."

Purposeful, heartfelt service is our duty.  It is commanded (1 Peter 4:10).  Service is a form of gratitude (2 Corinthians 9:12).  The gratitude that we express to God through service should never become at attitude of entitlement.  We must be cautious in our service and in using our gifts that we do not begin to feel that we deserve something in return from God.  When we serve, we do receive blessings in return from God, but we must be careful so that we do not expect material things as a payment for our acts of service.  New cars, vacations, jewelry and other material items are not part of what God blesses us with upon service to him.

Our attitudes should be continuously humble.  We must view service as a responsibility of being a Christian.  If we received what we really deserve, life would not be pretty at all.  We deserve condemnation.  We receive mercy and grace.  Therefore, service is a form of grace.  The grace is offered from us as servants to those in need.  Grace is also a gift to us from God as we fulfill our duty to serve.

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

God is ALWAYS good!

Psalms 136:1 Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good.  His love endures forever.

As the Thanksgiving season approaches, it is a good time to take inventory of our gratefulness.  As we gather for festivities, we give thanks, most usually, for those things near at hand.  We should give thanks for all things in our lives, both near to and far from the present.  If you woke up this morning, you can give God thanks for protection, sustainment and a promise for the future.

Often times we want to thank God for all the "good" things in our lives.  We are grateful for the happy times, the job promotion, relationships that are pleasing, and our overall prosperity.  What we need to remember in our gratefulness is that God is good--ALWAYS.  His goodness, His grace, and His love never changes--NEVER!  Even when the world around us is bad, God is still good.  When things in our lives seem to be going in negative directions, God is still good and he is a god of love.

Be grateful for all the good in your live.  Be grateful for when things do not seem so good.  Those are the times that God gives you strength that you may not have had before.  In bad times, God will reveal himself to you in ways which you have never known.  Give thanks to him.  He is ALWAYS good and he is ALWAYS filled with love. 

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Living for the future

Matthew 6:33   But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.       

Bitterness will grow when we live only for the present and in the past.  Constantly wallowing in "what happened to me" and "why me" is a recipe for bitterness.

We must live for the future, trusting in God's sovereignty and have faith in his promises.  Seek his kingdom first and all his promises will be fulfilled unto you. 

Monday, November 2, 2015

Emotions and decisions

Proverbs 2:6  For the Lord gives wisdom, and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.

"Do not make permanent decisions based upon temporary emotions".  I found this written on a stick-it note.  I don't remember where I read it, however, I like what it says.  In fact, NO decision should ever me made based solely on emotions.  Feelings are often unreasonable and unreliable.  Strong feelings such as anger are truly temporary and many decisions have been made by many people in the midst of their anger.  When this happens, regret usually follows.

I remember the time when each of our three children decided to leave home.  Not in the grown up sense to pursue college and careers, but in the little child stage around seven or eight years old.  It always followed a request for something they wanted to do or purchase.  When the answer was "No", which went against their desires, then some anger followed, along with the announcement, "Well, I will just leave home".  I remember when our oldest daughter announced her leaving, it caught me off guard and as I stood there looking at her in disbelief, she looked at me and said, "Can you help me pack a few things?"  I knew that she could in no way at seven years old make it on her own.  Seems like I can also remember when I announced this to my own mother.  I took a piece of cheese and some crackers and set out walking to my grandmother's house.  I was only gone a couple of hours and when the emotions subsided, I was ready to reverse my decision to leave home. These instances were real to me at the time. 

When emotions are strong they take over our thought processes.  We begin to reason that if we cannot get what we want, we will just leave the people that will not give it to us. When reasoning returns to our minds, we realize our permanent decisions may not have been the best thing for us.   

Wisdom is not found in emotional decisions.  Permanent decisions based upon an emotional state can cause permanent damage to the journey that God has planned for each of us.  Emotions are unreliable and many times short lived.  The decisions that we make are not always short lived.  They have compounding effects on all aspects of our lives.   Wisdom is found in the Lord.  Wisdom is acquired through concentrated and focused time with God. Some decisions in life will be made in short periods of time while others will require long periods of seeking God's advice.  Emotions must be put aside when making permanent decisions in order to allow wisdom to permeate the situation.