The Sweet Stuff Ministry

Friday, August 29, 2014

May our prayer lists be long

Psalm 41:1-2   Blessed is he who has regard for the weak; the LORD delivers him in times of trouble. The LORD will protect him and preserve his life; he will bless him in the land and not surrender him to the desire of his foes.


May we never be so involved in our own busyness and enjoyment of life that we forget about those who are hurting in any way. 

May we be ever mindful of those that have broken hearts by remembering how we have felt when our hearts were broken.  

May we remember those that are battling diseases and injuries and continuously pray for their healing and comfort.

May we remember those who are weak in spirit.  

Let us continuously be mindful and prayerful of those who are weak in any area.   Pray that we may share our strengths, courage and testimonies in ways that will offer encouragement and love.  May our prayer lists each day be long and involved in order to lift up all who are in need. 

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Fear will interfere

Psalms     27:1    .... The Lord is the stronghold of my life-of whom shall I be afraid?

Do not allow FEAR to INTERFERE with the plans that God has for you and your future. 

Fear is of the enemy.  Fear stems from a lack of feelings of security and trust.   If we allow strongholds to exist in our lives, fear will accompany.  

Strength is of God.  Strength and security will allow us to fulfill the plans that God has for us. 

Gather strength and persevere.   Trust in God's strength, truth and promises.

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Insecurity is a FEELING, not a fact.

Deuteronomy 33:12       And of Benjamin he (Moses) said, "The beloved of the Lord shall dwell in safety by him; and the Lord shall cover him all the day long, and he shall dwell between his shoulders."

Insecurity is often an accompaniment of bitterness.  Insecurity is especially present when bitterness stems from some form rejection.  After all, rejection implies to us that we are not good enough or loved by others.

Insecurity causes us to feel inferior and have little confidence in our value.  It makes us doubt that others love us.  Insecurity produces chronic feelings of self-pity.  

Insecurity produces fear.  The fears of insecurity look like this:
                        -Who will reject me next?
                        -I am worthless and nobody likes me.
                        -I will isolate myself from activities and relationships so that I will not be rejected
                        -Everyone intends to hurt me
                       
Insecurity is limiting in a person's life.  It limits happy, fulfilling relationships.  It limits a person's accomplishments.  It limits the service and relationship that a person can offer God.  Insecurity may also cause people to lash out at others in a mode of self-protection.

No one wants to admit insecurity.   It adds vulnerability and fear to an already sensitive esteem.  Self-doubt and uncertainty are not topics of conversation that most people readily initiate.  

If today finds you dealing with insecurity and fear, look to God to find security in your heart.   Trust him to secure your surroundings by blessing your relationships and endeavors.   Remember that insecurity and fear are FEELINGS, not  facts.  Search for the truths that God has placed in your life. Open your heart to the blessings that he has provided you.  He intends for each of us to feel loved and secure.  He wants us to enjoy relationships and find comfort and security day to day.  He places people in our lives that will offer us comfort and security. 

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Learning to "not become offended"

              
2 Corinthians 12:10  For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Any occurrence in our lives that we perceive as an offense, contains the potential of growing a root of bitterness.    Let us repeat that: Any occurrence in our lives that we perceive as an offense, contains the potential of growing a root of bitterness.  

Sometimes we may think of bitterness as being caused by some horrible/heinous act.   Those acts are indeed recipes for bitterness.  However, much bitterness grows from acts and words that may be small in nature.   Even the tiniest of acts or words spoken in malice can form lifelong feelings and effects of bitterness.   Perception of offenses lies in the eyes of the beholder, therefore if words are spoken that hit tender spots within a person's feelings, the offense may pack a powerful punch.

The remedy for the prevention of bitterness is to learn how to "not become offended".   Offenses usually stem from feelings of inadequacies or low self worth within us.   If we can learn to overlook and disregard malicious words or acts towards us, we can prevent bitterness from growing within us.   In our weakness when bad things are said to us or done to us, we need to find strength in God.   Allow him to deal with the acts and thoughts of others, while we deal with our own.  

Learning to "not become offended" takes time.  It involves sorting through some of our own emotions and issues in order to be able to overlook the emotions and issues of others.   Learning this process will draw you closer to God and will offer healing within yourself.

Monday, August 25, 2014

Is the thief stealing your joy through bitterness?

John 10:10  The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly. 

There is a thief that exists in our lives daily-Satan.  He wants nothing less than to steal from us.  He desires to steal our relationships, rob us of our peace, take away our joy and destroy our lives.   He tries on a daily basis to prevent us from living our lives to the fullest.  

Bitterness, anger, grudges and discontentment are ways in which Satan steals from us.   These negative emotions and poor attitudes rob our hearts of the appreciation of all the blessings that God has for us.  When our hearts are full of bitterness, we overlook the opportunities that God offers us to enjoy the relationships that we hold dear with the people in our lives.  When the roots of bitterness implant in our minds, we lose interest in serving God, therefore causing a separation within our relationship to him.  Bitterness can quickly invade our minds and rob us of all positivity. 

Before much time has passed, bitterness can consume a person to the point of a stronghold.   Strongholds prevent us from obedience to what God is calling us to do.  This is another way that the enemy steals and destroys.  As long as he can keep us wallowing in his negativity, he prevents us from a positive relationship with God.   When our minds are open to bitterness, we will not listen when God speaks to us. 

If your mind has a bitter root growing within it, I encourage you to identify it and get rid of it.  God will help you to remove the bitterness that is robbing you and he will replace it with joy.  Joy and enjoyment will allow you to live and abundant life.  When you are living abundantly and positively, your relationship with God improves and you will not miss the opportunities that he has for you. 

Friday, August 22, 2014

My prayer with this ministry always includes the hope that my experiences, day-to-day encounters, failures, struggles and the wonderful healing that God has to offer will permeate the hearts of all that read my posts and hear my presentations.   Our lives are journeys with mountains to climb and valleys to walk through.  By studying together and praying together, we can experience God's magnificence no matter what the situation. 

I covet your prayers as I speak this Sunday night to the congregation at Liberty Baptist Church in Russell Springs about bitterness.   The more that I study bitterness and speak with people through this ministry, the greater realization I have that so many people are dealing with bitterness and unforgiveness of hurts.  Most people, just like I was, are reluctant to admit bitterness or seek to be released from the bondage that it causes.    It does not matter what causes the hurt or how severe the bitterness and anger, God wants you to be free of it all.   Please join me in prayer for anyone that needs to face bitterness and reclaim The Sweet Stuff in their life.  I pray that each will surrender the hurts, experience the process of forgiveness and surrender to God and feel his wonderful healing.   Ministry is an exciting assignment and I am thankful to be a tool of His!!!

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Beauty is not found in a bar of soap


Proverbs 3:15-17   She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her.  Long life is in her right hand; in her left hand are riches and honor. Her ways are pleasant ways, and all her paths are peace.
A few years ago a major soap company had an ad in a popular magazine.   The ad contained average, everyday real life people (not models or movie stars) that used their brand of soap.  The soap company was seeking more "real" women that used the soap and at the bottom of the page was contact information.   The company offered to pay expenses for a trip to New York, a photo shoot and to feature women that used the soap in the magazine.  I use this soap, as does my mother, grandmother and my daughters.  As I began to daydream about contacting the company, I could see the future ad.  It would look like this:    My grandmother, mother,  my daughters and I would fly to New York.  We would wear all black so that only our faces would be featured in the ad (after all it is a facial soap).   Four generations of consumers using their soap with smooth, young looking skin.   Come on, can't you visualize this?   Kind of like the milk mustache ads only for soap!  I knew the value of the inner beauty of the generations before me and after me and I thought for sure that the soap company would agree with me.  Plus, I thought it would be loads of fun with many memories.
So I contacted the company, sharing with them my vision of the ad.  After I sent the email, I anxiously awaited a response.   My husband and I share an email account, however, I had forgotten to mention to him that I had responded to the ad.  Imagine my surprise one morning while I prepared breakfast and he was in our home office checking email.  Suddenly, I hear him ask that I come into the office right away.  As Desi Arnez said many times to Lucy, "you got some splaning to do" was pretty much his reaction.   

The soap company had responded and this is how the email read,  "Thanks for your interest in our ad campaign for the magazine.   Please send photos of everyone in their underwear."  Yes, you read that correctly--IN THEIR UNDERWEAR.   Keep in mind, this was face soap (beauty bar).    After much hee and haw, I quickly realized that the soap company and I did not share the same vision of how their soap had enhanced the lives of real women.  Needless to say, we never went to New York, nor did we appear in any magazine, nor did the soap company appreciate my four generations the way that I do. 

This event reminds me of how the world views beauty--from the outside.  Real, genuine, godly beauty exists among wrinkles, scars, thinning hair and those extra pounds that hang on and on.  Godly beauty does not present itself through the body.  Genuine, godly beauty presents itself through the heart and spirit of each individual.  

We have gotten many laughs over the years about the soap ad.  While soap may help us to look younger or more radiant, true inner beauty consists of so much more.  I did assemble our four generations for a professional photograph a few years ago for a Mother's Day gift to myself.  It is one of my post prized possessions!  When I look at that photograph (yes I had it done in black and white), I see what the hearts of the generations before me and the generation after me hold.  Beauty is built in great part from the relationships that we hold dear.   Beauty is not found in a bar of soap, magazine ad or any clothing that we do or do not wear.  True beauty is found within our hearts. Each of you is a beautiful creature.  Do not look to the world for a definition of beauty!

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Is your career a "job" or a fulfillment?

Ecclesiastes 3:11-12   He has made everything beautiful in its time.  He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end.  I know that there is nothing better for men than to be happy and do good while they live. 

In the book of Ecclesiastes, Solomon talks a great deal about working and accumulating things on earth.  He comes to the realization that neither working solely for money nor material possessions will provide lasting happiness.   The old saying "you can't take it with you" is precisely what Solomon came to realize about working to earn and accomplish.   He had the realization that when he was gone from earth, all his material things would stay behind and that some of the people that would gain his possessions would not appreciate all the time and efforts that he had put into gaining them.  Perhaps Solomon's greatest realization was that our work should be with an eternal focus.

Our work on earth should be satisfying but not in the sense of satisfaction from material things.  Our pleasure from working should be found in enjoying our gifts from God, serving Him and serving others.   A job or career should not only be about fulfilling our own personal goals but should be centered around the purpose that God has for us in that career.  In verse 11, Solomon says "yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end".  We are only a part of God's eternal plan.  We have a purpose and job to do while we live here on earth.  We should strive to fulfill the eternal thirsts that God has set in our hearts by realizing that we can never be completely satisfied with pursuits of earthly pleasures and accumulations.  We can be happy with when we trust God to fulfill us through our work on earth. 

If you are unhappy with your work, pray for an attitude of eternity to burn within you.  Seek the happiness that comes from serving others which in turn serves the purpose that God has set for you.  Seek fulfillment in knowing that your part of God's eternal plan matters! 

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

1 Samuel 2:1-2 Then Hannah prayed and said: "My heart rejoices in the Lord; in the Lord my horn is lifted high. My mouth boasts over my enemies, for I delight in your deliverance. "There is no one besides you; there is no Rock like our God."

In this passage, Hannah is praising God for his for being ever present, strong and consistent. Not many things on earth are consistent and reliable. Material possessions tear up and get lost, friends come and go and circumstances in our lives change. God never changes nor does he ever leave us.

Put your hope and trust in Him. Lean upon the solid Rock!

Monday, August 18, 2014

Maintaining daily peace

James 4:7-8     Submit yourselves, then to God.  Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.  Come near to God and he will come near to you.


      Maintaining daily peace requires submission of yourself and all the turmoil in your life to God.  On a daily basis we must humble ourselves before God and let him handle the turmoil.    Satan likes to "mess in our peace". 

Verse 7 tells us to resist the devil.  What does this look like in our quest for daily inner peace?  It looks like this: 
         1. When you get up and negative thoughts or memories come into your mind, refuse to dwell on these (no wallowing; no ruminating).  Immediately begin to list at least 3 positive thoughts or memories, otherwise the devil has a good start at ruining your day. 
         2.  No reading negative things on social media--there is a delete button for your convenience. Turn that television off or better yet, disconnect it.  Most things on tv are sad, negative, or contain fear inducing material.  
         3.  Hang around with positive and encouraging people.  If you feel that you do not know any of these folks, pray and God will send some your way.  
         4.  This is last, however it is MOST important.  PRAY, PRAY AND PRAY.  Prayer is how you give it all to God and how peace is found. 

Friday, August 15, 2014

Make God the first priority of your time.

Time waits for no one.  As a matter of fact, it moves on quickly. 

So many things in this world will readily demand our time:  work, errands, and activities. 

See to it that you make God the first priority of your time.

See to it that your family is the next priority of your time, so that each member is always aware of your sentiments for them.      

Thursday, August 14, 2014

Are you only making left turns?

Proverbs 3:6  In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.

We have two Thoroughbred horses that we adopted from a rescue center in our area.   The purpose of the center is take race horses that have been abandoned or injured and repurpose them.  They are trained, taught new things, and placed in locations where they can serve in a new capacity.  Some of the abandoned horses are trained for mounted police jobs.  Others become award winning competitors while some enjoy life in lush green pastures as pets.  

Think about race horses.  They are taken from their natural environment and taught to focus on speed in order for the owner to win a purse.   During all of a race horse's career, they run in a circle and make only left turns.   When race horses are injured or perhaps do not have great winning records, the owners are finished with them.  Sometimes they are abandoned at the tracks, other times they may be sold for slaughter.  At this point, their paths are unclear; their purpose is no longer the same.  This is where the retirement centers enter the picture.  The center rescues the horses and teaches them new skills.  The horses must learn to trust the new trainers because remember, they have only run in circles making left hand turns all their lives.  It is a heart warming experience to visit the center and to hear the stories of the lives that the horses are offered. 

It is easy in life for us to become similar to a race horse in that we run in the same circular direction chasing after scenery that never seems to change.  Do you feel as if you run in a circle making only left turns?  Are you unsure of your purpose or which way your life should be going?  Trust in God, acknowledge Him in every aspect of your life.  He will show you how to live your life other than racing in circles.  He can rescue you from the race tracks of life.  He can teach you many new things as long as you trust and go to Him for everything. 

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Do we offer forgiveness unconditionally?

Luke 11:4   Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us. 

Do we offer forgiveness unconditionally?   

When we think about conditional vs. unconditional, the first thought that we have is usually about love.  We know that God expects us to love unconditionally.   But what about forgiveness?  Do we offer forgiveness unconditionally or do we assign conditions to what or whom we might forgive.  God expects us to forgive unconditionally.  Period.

I was talking with a fellow a couple of years ago about forgiveness.  He had forgiven a parent for infidelity and the hurt that it had caused the entire family.  However, he holds a bitter grudge against one of his siblings for an argument in which angry words were spoken.   I asked this fellow how he could forgive one situation, that to me seemed much more hurtful and difficult than the other, yet carry a grudge against the one that seemed less hurtful.    He only offered this statement:  "It is easy to forgive someone when your paycheck depends on it" (the parent in the situation is also his employer).  I have often thought about this situation.  How is it that we assign priorities to forgiveness?   Is it truly easier to forgive when there is "something in it for me" such as something tangible?   Does an immediate need or desire that we have make forgiveness easier in our minds?  If so, then forgiveness is conditional.  Can we sincerely have forgiveness in our hearts when we pick and choose where we offer mercy?

When Jesus was praying one day his disciples asked him to teach them to pray.   He told them to pray in what we know as the Lord's prayer which includes Luke 11:4.  We are to pray for strength and wisdom to forgive EVERYONE who sins against us.  We are not to treat it as a cafeteria plan where we pick and choose who and what we forgive.  We are to forgive everyone.  Repeat- everyone.  We are promised in scripture that we will be forgiven according to how we offer forgiveness (Matthew 6:14).  We want to be forgiven of everything we have done, not just a few of the worst things.   Ephesians 3:13 says, "Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another."

Key words to keep in mind regarding forgiveness:  "EVERYONE" and "whatever grievances".   If there are situations and people with which you are withholding forgiveness, remember these key words and pray like Jesus commanded so that all can be forgiven.  Just as God expects us to love unconditionally, he also expects us to forgive in the same manner.

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Isaiah 41:10      So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Today we will move my oldest daughter back to college for her sophomore year.  My heart is heavy this morning.   It is heavy because I will miss her greatly and I love having her at home with all of us, however, that heaviness seems so light compared to what is causing the most of the heaviness in my heart.  My heart is broken for a young lady in Wyoming who was set to be my daughter's roommate this year.  They had met on the phone and become acquainted as they prepared to be roommates.  They had spent time planning how they wanted the room to look and details about school as this young lady was transferring from another college and it would have been her first year at this college.   Last week the young lady was involved in a serious car accident and remains in a coma.   

My heart breaks for this family.  I know that the they would love opportunity to move their daughter into the dorm today.  I know their hearts are breaking as they sit day by day at her bedside praying for her to awaken and be healed.   I have learned a great deal about their family from being in touch since the accident.  Lerae is a vibrant young woman who was working two jobs to pay for her college expenses.  She is loved by many and has a wonderful supportive family. 

I dedicate this post today to prayers for this young lady and her family.  I pray for strength, courage, faith and perseverance   during this difficult and uncertain time.  I pray for complete healing on this young lady's body and that she may be whole again.   There are so many heartbreaking situations in the world around us.  I ask that you pray for this family as well as all others that are going through difficult and trying times. 

Monday, August 11, 2014

May our "Thank Yous" greatly outnumber our "Pleases"

Colossians 3:17   And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. 

For as many times as we go to God in prayer and say "Please", we should also go to him and say "Thank You".

Most people will include "thank yous" in their prayers especially at meal time or when a major prayer has been answered.    I feel that I do not thank him enough.  We should thank him for ALL things great and small.   He deserves thanks for his sovereignty, for breath and life that we experience each day, for the opportunities that he affords us, for the beauty all around us, for our families and homes and even down to the burger and fries that we might eat for lunch.  

"Thanks" should not only be a word that we speak  in politeness, it should also be an area within our hearts that is filled with a grateful attitude.  Thanksgiving should not only happen in the fall during family celebrations, it should happen daily as we celebrate what God has done for us and all that he is.  Our actions and behaviors should resonate a thankful attitude so that others can see God's greatness through us. 

Pause for some time today and thank God for everything.   Look around you and find the blessings within your life as well as the wonderful opportunities that God has for each of us. 

May our "Thank Yous" greatly outnumber our "Pleases".  

Friday, August 8, 2014

In order to feel good, we must feel God.

God wants us to feel good.  There are various things in life that make us feel good.   Love from our families and friends, good health, a job we enjoy and other fun things help us to feel good.  Some songs and music will play on our emotions and help us to feel good.  Foods that we enjoy can offer "feel good" feelings.

However, these things will only make us feel good for a short time or maybe a season in life because all the things listed above are tangible or consumable.  It takes something more to experience feeling good from the inside out.  I am talking about an overall peace and happiness that is steadfast and constant in our lives; that peace and joy that we can maintain when the world is storming and raging around us.

In order to "feel good", we must feel God.   

In order to "feel good", we must feel God. 

How do we feel God?    With a personal relationship that begins with salvation (John 3:16).   We feel God with daily prayer, studying in the Bible and absorbing his word.  When we seek his presence, his perfect will and his guidance, we will feel God. 

Thursday, August 7, 2014

God expects us to own less and serve more

Luke 12:15   And he said the them, "Take care and be on guard against all kinds of covetousness, for one's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions."

Last week God answered a prayer that my husband I had prayed for at least three years.  We sold a piece of property that we bought several years ago.   I never thought that the word "SOLD" would hold so many lessons and feelings of relief.   Let me tell you all about it.

When we built our house 14 years ago, we bought a tract of land with ten acres in the country.  A perfect sized little square of property with much beauty and potential.   Next to us was a 52 acre tract of land that a fellow used for livestock.   We began to think that if this piece of land ever became for sale that we would like to own it.  We imagined having a few cows on, horses for the girls, hunting and fishing for the boy--fun for everyone.   A few years later, the owner came to us and told us that the land was for sale.    

Without much prayer-yes you read this correctly-WITHOUT much prayer, we purchased the land.  Shortly thereafter, we stocked it with cows and we were ready for the fun to begin.  Now bear in mind that we are not farmers, nor ranch hands, nor any of the such, therefore this was not a venture that was to be our source of living.  I grew up with cattle and land but that was not what I chose as a profession when I entered the work world.   When the fun began ie. the cows calving, cows getting sick, cows getting out of the fence and onto someone else's property, cows standing in the middle of a frozen pond, etc, etc.,  my husband was either in work and unavailable or out of town.  If you have ever dealt with cattle you are fully aware that calves do not wait to be born and most cows do not stand around waiting to get sick or go back in the fence until you get off work or have free time.  So, that left me, myself and I, along with three children under the ages of ten to handle all the cow issues.  Did I mention that the fun had begun? 

The cows added much stress to our already busy lives.  What on earth were we thinking???  One of the greatest lessons we learned in this land purchase was that when "things" in life require more of our time and efforts, we have more stress and less time for God and one another.   We had thought that expanding our farm would enhance our lives.   Instead, the word "cow" and problems associated with them became the majority of our conversations.  Those conversations contained more problems than solutions; more stress than fun. 

The cows were stressful, the land required hours of attention that we could not give it, and as our son grew up, he had no interest in hunting in the woods of the property.  We were striking out all the way around with how we thought the purchase of this land would make us happier.   No delicious fruits were harvested from the decision to increase the abundance of our "stuff". 

As they say in the south, we had a little "come to Jesus" meeting.  We first apologized to God for not including him and seeking his guidance in this decision and for the lack of good stewardship with our time and money.   We asked him to show us how to straighten it all out.    It was time to sell this land that added stress to our lives and took away time that we could be serving God in other ways.  So for three years we listed it for sale, anxiously awaiting a buyer.   There were several lookers throughout the years but no takers.  We were somewhat discouraged but we never gave up.    Then when we were least expecting it, actually we were on vacation when we received the call, a buyer made an offer.   Buyers and sellers are thrilled with the transaction.  The buyers plan to build a cabin on the land and enjoy it to the fullest.  I can't think of a more perfect buyer than the one God sent.  

Some points to make with this story:  1.  wait for God to guide you in ALL decisions in your life.   2.  an abundance of property and things does not equal an abundance of happiness    3.  there are lessons to be learned and realizations to be made aware of while waiting on God to answer our prayers   4.  God will show us how to make our wrong decisions right when we humble ourselves and seek his well.  5. our prayers are answered in God's time and many times those answers will come when we least expect and in ways that could not have imagined.

God does not expect us to own more.  In fact, he expects us to own less and SERVE more.   The least amount of  material possession we have, the more time we can offer.  We really do not need an abundance of things in life to be content.  

Wednesday, August 6, 2014

Remember why we must forgive

Matthew 6:14-15   For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.

As much as we desire to forgive and at times we must learn how to forgive, it is most important that we understand and accept "WHY" we must forgive.  The reason why we must forgive is plain:  God says so.   We must offer forgiveness in order to receive forgiveness.  

Forgive first and foremost because God commands it.  You will also reap many other benefits in your life.   I know that you have heard many times that forgiveness sets the offended free more so than the offender.   There is truth in this!

Forgiveness allows us to love both God and people at greater depths.  Forgiveness affords us the ability to love those that are difficult to love or that we may feel are unworthy of our love.  Forgiveness offer us love when we are on the receiving end.   When our hearts are free of offenses, bitterness and grudges, we can worship more freely and move forward with God's purpose for us.  


Friday, August 1, 2014

Compassion

Romans 12:15   Rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep.

So many people in the world are hurting and dealing with emotional turmoil.  Discouragement, bitterness, depression and deep wounds will cause people to feel isolated-like no one understands what they are feeling. 

Each of us experience different hurts with different depths to our wounds.  We do have in common the feelings produced by the hurts. We understand the emotions that accompany hurts and disappointments.  We share a need to know that we are not alone in feeling the way we do.  We have a desire to feel loved and accepted.

It is difficult to reach out at times to seek comfort from others.  We fear that our friends and family may analyze our situation or pass judgment on our thoughts or actions.  We fear that we might hear the "well you should have done....................." lecture. 

When others come to us for comfort, we should remember that it takes courage for most to share their deep inner hurts and feelings.  It creates vulnerability.   It is important to love and understand others rather than analyze or give advice.   Weep along side those that value your friendship enough to pour their hearts out to you.  Love and acceptance speak louder than any words you might offer.